For many years, women have been labeled as chatter boxes. It has been said, “God made man before He made woman because He wanted to have a little talk with him without interruption.” Usually, women express themselves more often through words and are more verbal with their feelings than men. Someone once said that the average woman talks 50 percent more than her husband or significant other listens. Let’s face it—women like to talk.
The Bible contains multiple examples of people whose tongues brought trouble for themselves or other people. Deceived by Satan’s lie, Adam and Eve were cast out of the Garden of Eden and sin came into the world. (Genesis 3). With a cunning lie, Jacob took the blessing that belonged to his brother, Esau. (Genesis 27). Ananias and Sapphira’s lie about their gift of money to the church brought them sudden death. (Acts 5:1-11).
James did not touch lightly on the subject of the tongue, either. Every chapter in the book of James contains information about the vices and virtues of speech.
And the tongue is a fire, a world of unrighteousness. The tongue is set among our members, staining the whole body, setting on fire the entire course of life, and set on fire by hell. James 3:6
For one small part of the body, the tongue sure can do a lot. It can teach, boast, praise, curse, quarrel, slander, grumble, swear, sing, pray, confess and corrupt the whole person.
Although people think of it as harmless, gossip is laced beside murder, sexual impurity, and God-hating in Romans 1:29-32.
They were filled with all manner of unrighteousness, evil, covetousness, malice. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, maliciousness. They are gossips, slanderers, haters of God, insolent, haughty, boastful, inventors of evil, disobedient to parents, foolish, faithless, heartless, ruthless. Though they know God's righteous decree that those who practice such things deserve to die, they not only do them but give approval to those who practice them.
A man can be disqualified from serving as a deacon if his wife is a gossip.
Their wives likewise must be dignified, not slanderers, but sober-minded, faithful in all things. 1 Timothy 3:11
Younger widows were advised to remarry so they would not go from house to house and become gossips and busybodies.
Besides that, they learn to be idlers, going about from house to house, and not only idlers, but also gossips and busybodies, saying what they should not. 1 Timothy 5:13
Gossip is serious business. Gossip causes others to mistrust us. It destroys friendships. It causes others to have negative thoughts about us.
We are to speak the words of Christ
One of the best ways to speak with purity is to follow Christ’s example.
He committed no sin, neither was deceit found in his mouth. When he was reviled, he did not revile in return; when he suffered, he did not threaten, but continued entrusting himself to him who judges justly. 1 Peter 2:22-23
No deception was found in his mouth. Christ’s example proves that no matter how difficult the situation, we can always control our tongues and speak with purity. A clean heart won’t let your mouth speak dirty. Purify your heart and you cleanse your speech.
Ladies, we have to be less like Gossip Girls and more like God’s Girls.
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Rachel Garrison is a sophomore at Freed-Hardeman University majoring in Special Education. She attends Atwood church of Christ. Rachel volunteers with the Special Olympics organizations in West Tennessee. She loves blogging, going home to see her dog (and family), and binge watching Netflix instead of doing her homework.